I know it’s part of a move title. The one with Jennifer Lawrence and Bradley Cooper. People say this phrase all the time. I am guilty of it…But what does it mean?
Merriam-Webster defines it as “something good that can be found in a bad situation. ”
Ahh! Now it makes sense! You see, 3 1/2 months ago my husband was hit by a car while walking across the street. The car did not stop. Will suffered multiple fractures, severed his lip, lost his front tooth, but most importantly, had a traumatic brain injury (TBI). From the trauma ICU to intense rehabilitation in Atlanta at The Shepherd Center to outpatient therapy at Shepherd Pathways to FINALLY being home…3 months later…I left out so many details, but you get the point. We went through this life changing-experience. I placed my life on hold to save his…there has to be a silver lining?? I know what you all are thinking…”At least he is alive!” And yes, this is true. We are so BLESSED, but I still was looking, secretly hoping for that silver lining.
You see, I’m one of those people who believes everything happens for a reason. Maybe it’s my way of dealing with things, because when bad things happen, I see it as a way to look for the good. Silver lining. But then when something awful and life-changing happened to me, it was hard to believe it was all apart of life’s purpose or plan. It took almost 4 months to realize my silver lining.
Prior to Will’s injury, I had taken an interview with a case management company. I knew I was in over my head when I interviewed but had faith in my charm and wit. HAHA!! Without sparing you the painful details, I didn’t get the job. They said I lacked experience in catastrophic case management. Who could blame them?
Fast forward a few months and a brain injury later…I had a chance to redeem myself. This is it…my SILVER LINING! I prepped for days for this interview. It was the first time in MONTHS I had focused solely on ME. That’s when I started to panic…the past few months, I had lost myself. I had focused so much on Will and his recovery, I had forgotten how to converse with anyone who didn’t have a brain injury. But as I was sitting at my sister’s the Sunday prior to my interview, she took it upon herself to prep me. She sensed my panic and fear. She saved me, yet again.
During the interview the next day, I was sure they could hear my heart beat out of my chest…I literally placed my hand on my chest to slow it down. As the interview progressed, I slowly began to feel like the old me, but wiser…much wiser. My answers seemed to flow off the tip of my tongue. As the interview ended, I couldn’t help but think of what a journey the last few months have been. Was this a therapy session or an interview!? I wasn’t sure. Either way, they saw my recent experience as a plus and hired me! Yes!! SILVER LINING!!
Looking back over the past few months, I have gained a new husband (who’s the same after a TBI?? another Silver Lining!), a few, and by a few I mean 14, new facial wrinkles, and, most importantly, a new outlook on life. We are only guaranteed this ONE life…make the best of it and know life WILL test you, but also remember, we will never be given more than we can handle…and if you look hard enough you will always find your silver lining.