Tonight, I found myself browsing through old photos and reminiscing the good old days. The few years post college were magical. I thought for a brief moment I’d give anything to go back to those days. I was carefree, and life was so, so easy.
But why? At the time I don’t recall thinking, WOW, my life is magical and perfect and so easy!
It didn’t take me long to realize the answer…life was all those things because I only cared about myself. Life is a piece of cake when you’re the only person you have to worry about. Last minute concerts. Spontaneous trips away. Karaoke until 1 a.m. Thursday night rooftop concerts. Those days were some of my best days…but eventually, I wanted more.
A few dogs, a husband, and a couple hundred life lessons later, I have come to embrace this new life. Many of my friends/family are having little humans, and I’m still trying to keep my head above water caring for my two dogs and husband. I’ll admit, when my little sister told me she was pregnant, my heart broke a little. I was supposed to be first…I’m older. I got married first. I should be having kids first…right?!
Wrong! I truly believe that’s where people get it wrong. Whoever said you have to be married in your 20s, kids before your 30, and retire at 60 was oh, so wrong! I’m not saying it’s wrong for people to do it, but it’s most certainly okay for people to not.
However, I don’t want you thinking I’m not estastic about being an aunt. Nor do I want to come off as someone who despises kids. Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you how much I adore little humans, and surprisingly, they adore me.
If you are reading this, and you feel pressured by society to rush into a marriage and/or pressured to have kids…don’t! Despite popularity, marriage and kids should not be taken lightly. Be selfish. Travel alone. Be independent. Start out with pets…they are a huge commitment, but not as big as a husband or children. Be happy with being alone.
No one tells you to wait. Society has placed a time clock on marriage…kids…retirement…happiness. I am here to tell you, it’s okay to defy the societal norm. 2018 has seen its share of movements such as the #METOO, #BLACKLIVESMATTER, #TIMESUP movements. We are living in a generation where the norm is being defined, and I am loving it.
Who knows…Maybe one day my dogs and husband will not suffice my needs and a family (or a new dog) will be warranted, but until, if ever, that times comes, I’m going to keep my head up and continue living my best life.
This is your life, and you get to choose where you go from here. Please don’t let society choose for you.